保养
我们对肉身的爱惜，表现在保养顾惜。保养就是餧养。关于肉身的保养，是作妻子的保养丈夫。但就着属灵一面说，作丈夫的要保养他们的妻子。正如我们为着身体的缘故而吃，所以作丈夫的也要为妻子的缘故，从主有所领受。作丈夫的需要保养他的妻子，顾到她的需要，如同他顾到自己身体的需要一样。这就是二十九节里保养的意思。
接受某些东西来满足妻子的需要，这显出深挚的爱。我知道有些作丈夫的擅长烹饪，他们甚至为妻子作菜。最终我明白，他们只是为着自己的享受而烹饪，却忽略了妻子真正的需要。保养妻子，意思不是为她服事饭食，乃是指你从主有所领受，来顾到她的需要。这样，你就保养了她，正如你保养自己的身体一样。这是真正的爱。
顾惜
作丈夫的也应当藉着顾惜自己的妻子，而爱自己的妻子，如同爱自己的身体一样。顾惜是以柔爱养育，并以亲切的照料维护，藉柔细的温暖使人外面软化，好在里面得着安慰、舒适的安息。这是基督照料祂身体─教会─的作法。顾惜就是给与深切柔和的照顾，藉着柔细的温暖，使其软化。例如，一只母鸟把雏鸟覆罩在翅膀下，以它身体的温暖使雏鸟软化。在母鸟的怀抱之下，小鸟就得着柔细的温暖。
有时候作妻子的像冰冷的小鸟。她们也许没有和丈夫吵嘴，甚至也没有生他们的气，却是冷冰冰的。她们也许用冰冷作武器征服丈夫。这时，作丈夫的就该柔细的温暖、软化他的妻子，如同母鸟以怀抱来温暖雏鸟一般。这就是顾惜。一个藉着恩典并在爱中这样顾惜他妻子的弟兄，必定是个好丈夫。
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Living in the Relationship Between Wife and Husband (1) – Husbands – Eph. 5:29
Nourishing
We show love for our body by nourishing and cherishing it. To nourish is to feed. Concerning physical nourishment, it is the wife who nourishes the husband. But spiritually speaking, husbands are to nourish their wives. Just as we eat for the sake of our body, so husbands need to take in something of the Lord for the sake of their wives. A husband needs to nourish his wife, to take care of her needs, just as he takes care of the needs of his body. This is the meaning of nourish in verse 29.
To take in something to meet the wife’s need reveals a deep love. I have known some husbands who were skillful in cooking. They even cooked for their wives. Eventually I learned that they were cooking only for their own enjoyment, but they neglected the real need of their wives. To nourish your wife does not mean to serve food to her. It means that you take in something of the Lord to care for her needs. In this way you nourish her just as you nourish your own body. This is real love.
Cherishing
Husbands should also love their wives as their own bodies by cherishing their wives. To cherish is to nurture with tender love and foster with tender care. This is the way Christ cares for the church as His Body. To cherish something is to care for it deeply and tenderly. It is to soften it through tender warmth. For example, a mother bird softens baby birds with the warmth of her body as she holds them under her wings. Under her embrace, the little birds are warmed tenderly.
Sometimes wives are like cold birds. They may not argue with their husbands or even be angry with them, but they may become cold. They may use coldness as a weapon to subdue their husbands. At such times, a husband should tenderly warm and soften his wife, just as a mother bird warms her baby birds by embracing them. This is cherishing. A brother who by grace and in love cherishes his wife in this way will surely be a good husband.