作丈夫的，要爱妻子
保罗劝勉作丈夫的，要爱他们的妻子。与服从相对的是管辖；但使徒并没有劝作丈夫的管辖妻子，乃是劝他们爱妻子。在婚姻生活中，妻子的责任是服从，丈夫的责任是爱。妻子的服从，加上丈夫的爱，就构成正确的婚姻生活，也表征正常的教会生活─教会服从基督，基督爱教会。
正如基督爱教会，为教会舍了自己
丈夫对妻子的爱，必须像基督对教会的爱。这意思是说，作丈夫的应当为他们的妻子舍了自己。对丈夫的要求比对妻子的要求重得多。服从一个人，不像为一个人舍了自己那样难。舍了自己就是成为殉道者，牺牲你的性命。作丈夫的要爱妻子到这样的地步，以自己作代价。他们必须甘愿付出极大的代价，甚至为妻子死。
如同爱自己的身体
二十八节说，“丈夫也当照样爱自己的妻子，如同爱自己的身体；爱自己妻子的，便是爱自己了。”保罗在这节两次题到丈夫爱自己的妻子。正如我们曾经指出的，这指明作丈夫的要爱自己的妻子，不要将她与别人比较。每个人都爱惜自己的身体。作丈夫的应当把妻子当作自己身体的一部分，并且照顾她，如同照顾自己的身体。
爱妻子如同爱自己
末了，保罗在二十八节说，作丈夫的要爱自己的妻子，如同爱自己的身体。他也说，“爱自己妻子的，便是爱自己了。”三十三节再强调同样的点。
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Living in the Relationship Between Wife and Husband (1) – Husbands — Eph. 5:25
Husbands Loving Their Wives
Paul exhorts the husbands to love their wives. The opposite of subjection is ruling. However, the apostle does not exhort the husbands to rule over the wives, but to love them. In married life, the wife’s obligation is subjection and the husband’s, love. The wife’s subjection plus the husband’s love constitutes proper married life and typifies the normal church life, in which the church is subject to Christ and Christ loves the church.
As Christ Loved the Church and Gave Himself Up for Her
A husband’s love for his wife must be like Christ’s love for the church. This means that a husband ought to give himself up for his wife. The requirement for the husband is much heavier than that for the wife. Submitting to someone is not as difficult as giving yourself up for someone. To give yourself up is to be a martyr, to sacrifice your life. Husbands are to love their wives at such a cost to themselves. They must be willing to pay a great price, even to die for their wives.
As Their Own Bodies
Eph. 3:28 says, “So the husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.” In this verse Paul twice speaks of husbands loving their own wives. As we have pointed out, this indicates that a husband is to love his wife without comparing her to others. Everyone loves his body. A husband should regard his wife as part of his body and care for her as his own body.
As Himself
Finally, in verse 28 Paul says that the husband ought to love his own wife as his own body. He also says, “He who loves his own wife loves himself.” The same point is stressed again in verse 33.