服从自己的丈夫
保罗在二十二节劝勉作妻子的，要服从自己的丈夫。作妻子的，多半欣赏、尊敬别人的丈夫；因此，使徒劝勉作妻子的，不论自己的丈夫怎样，都要服从他。
保罗论到作妻子的要服从自己的丈夫，这话指明作妻子的有一个倾向，将自己的丈夫与别人的丈夫比较。作丈夫的对他们的妻子也可能如此。如果我们缺少恩典或不活在神的光中，我们也许会作这样的比较。这是撒但破坏婚姻生活的诡计。在订婚时，你也许认为，你所计画要嫁的人是最好的。但是嫁给他之后，你也许开始将他与别人比较。因此，保罗劝勉作妻子的，要服从自己的丈夫，不要作比较。
保罗用同样的原则，对作丈夫的说话，劝勉他们要爱自己的妻子。这指明他们不该将自己的妻子与别人的妻子比较。我们必须恨恶这样的比较。这样的比较乃是出于仇敌撒但，并会导致分居，甚至离婚。我们若渴慕过一种与神的呼召相配的生活，一种照着实际，凭着恩典，并在爱和光中的生活，就不可将自己的妻子或丈夫与别人的比较。作妻子的反而应当服从自己的丈夫，作丈夫的应当爱自己的妻子。
如同服从主
按照保罗在二十二节的话，作妻子的应当服从自己的丈夫，“如同服从主”。作妻子的要认识，在主眼中，作丈夫的代表主。在婚姻生活中，作丈夫的如同主一样，这是作妻子的必须服从自己丈夫的原因。我怀疑有多少已婚的妻子会把自己的丈夫当作主一样。今天婚姻生活的光景真是可悲，满了不服和背叛。尽管如此，正如基督是教会的头，也是身体的救主，作妻子的必须服从自己的丈夫，如同服从主。亚伯拉罕的妻子撒拉是这事的好榜样：“撒拉顺从亚伯拉罕，称他为主”（彼前三6）。
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Living in the Relationship Between Wife and Husband (2) — Wives — Eph. 5:22
Subject to Their Own Husband
In verse 22 Paul exhorts wives to be subject to their own husbands. Most wives appreciate and respect others’ husbands. Hence, the apostle exhorts the wives to be subject to their own husbands, no matter what kind of husbands they are.
Paul’s word about wives submitting to their own husbands indicates that there is the tendency for wives to compare their husbands with the husbands of others. Husbands may do the same thing regarding their wives. If we are short of grace and do not live in the light of God, we may make such comparisons. This is the subtlety of Satan to damage married life. During your engagement, you may have thought that the one you were planning to marry was the best. But after you married him, you may have begun to compare him with others. Therefore, Paul exhorted the wives to submit to their own husbands and not to make comparisons.
In the same principle, when Paul addresses the husbands, he exhorts them to love their own wives. This indicates that they should not compare their wives with the wives of others. We must hate such comparisons. They originate with the enemy, Satan, and can lead to separation or even divorce. If we desire to live a life worthy of God’s calling, a life according to truth, by grace, and in love and light, we must not compare our wife or husband with others. Rather, wives should submit to their own husbands, and husbands should love their own wives
As to the Lord
According to Paul’s word in Eph. 5:22, wives are to be subject to their own husbands “as to the Lord.” The wives need to realize that in the eyes of the Lord the husband represents the Lord. The reason the wife must submit to her own husband is that in married life he is as the Lord. I doubt that many married sisters regard their husbands as the Lord. The situation regarding married life today is deplorable, filled with disobedience and rebellion. Nevertheless, as Christ is the Head of the church and the Savior of the Body, wives must be subject to their husbands as to the Lord. Sarah, the wife of Abraham, was a good example of this. According to 1 Peter 3:6, “Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.”