惟有在灵里被充满，才能有正确的婚姻生活
保罗在四章，给了我们与神呼召相配之生活的原则。这个原则乃是脱去旧人并穿上新人。妻子与丈夫的关系，乃是联于在灵里被充满。这是那些在灵里被充满，达到神一切丰满的人，日常生活的一面。因此，当我们说到妻子与丈夫之间的关系时，我们不该忽略在里面被充满。我们惟有在灵里被充满，才能有正确的婚姻生活。
作妻子的，要服从自己的丈夫，如同服从主
使徒在关于婚姻生活的劝勉里，首先说到作妻子的，因为作妻子的，像创世记三章的夏娃，比作丈夫的容易偏离正路。同样的原则，保罗先说到儿女，再说到父母；先说到奴仆，再说到主人。儿女与父母之间，大多数的难处是出在儿女身上，不是出在父母身上。儿女不顺从父母，反而，在实际生活中，常是父母顺从儿女。妻子与丈夫之间的关系也是如此。作丈夫的，在你们的婚姻生活里，是你们顺从妻子多，还是她们顺从你们多？大多数作丈夫的，不得不回答说，他们顺从妻子，多过妻子顺从他们。实际上的确是如此。作丈夫的若不知道如何顺从妻子，他们就不会有和睦的婚姻生活。凡不会顺从妻子的丈夫，都不知道如何体恤妻子并爱妻子。作丈夫的要爱他的妻子，就必须体恤她，甚至顺从她。惟有顺从才能生发顺从。惟有顺从才能出代价在别人里面产生顺从。作丈夫的若从来没有顺从过妻子，就很难叫妻子顺从他。
彼前三章七节说，妻子是软弱的器皿。这就是保罗在以弗所五章先对作妻子的说话的原因。保罗在关于妻子与丈夫，儿女与父母，奴仆与主人的劝勉里，都是先顾到软弱的一边，然后才顾到刚强的一边。刚强的一边不该对软弱的一边有要求。如果作丈夫的晓得妻子是较为软弱的器皿，他就不会对她有所要求。
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Living in the Relationship Between Wife and Husband (1) – Wives — Eph. 5:18,22
Only Being Filled in Our Spirit Can We Have a Proper Married Life
In Ephesians chapter 4, Paul gives us the principle of a life worthy of God’s calling. This principle is a matter of having put off the old man and of having put on the new man. The relationship between wives and husbands is connected to the matter of being filled in spirit. It is an aspect of the daily living of those who are filled in spirit unto all the fullness of God. Therefore, when we speak about the relationship between wives and husbands, we should not neglect the infilling. Only by being filled in our spirit can we have a proper married life.
Wives Be Subject to Your Own Husbands, as to the Lord
In the exhortations concerning married life, the apostle deals first with the wives, since the wives, like Eve in Genesis 3, more easily get out of line than the husbands. In the same principle, Paul deals with children before parents, and slaves before masters. Regarding the relationship between children and parents, most of the problems are caused by the children, not by the parents. The children are disobedient to their parents, but, in actual practice, the parents are obedient to their children. The same is true of the relationship between wives and husbands. Husbands, in your married life, do you obey your wife more than she obeys you, or does she obey you more? Most husbands would have to answer that they obey their wives more than their wives obey them. It is true according to practice. If husbands do not know how to obey their wives, they will not have a peaceful married life. Any husband who does not obey his wife does not know how to sympathize with her and to love her. In order for a husband to love his wife, he must sympathize with her and even obey her. Only obedience can beget obedience. Only obedience can pay the price to produce obedience in others. If a husband never obeys his wife, it will be very difficult for his wife to obey him.
First Peter 3:7 says that wives are weaker vessels. This is the reason Paul speaks to wives first here in Ephesians 5. In his exhortations concerning wives and husbands, children and parents, and slaves and masters, Paul takes care firstly of the weaker side and then of the stronger side. Those on the stronger side should not place demands on those on the weaker side. If a husband realizes that his wife is the weaker vessel, he will not be demanding of her.